A Kuwaiti Wedding, Part 2

Last April, I wrote a post called  A Kuwaiti Wedding, Part 1, which I intended to follow with a Part 2, Part 3, etc. Well, it's been a whole year, and now having gone to another Kuwaiti wedding, I thought I just might finish.

In Part 1, I described the setting, the general concept behind the gathering, and who goes there. In this installment, I'll finish describing the rest of the proceedings from the first wedding, and I hope to compare the two Kuwaiti weddings and briefly describe the second one that I've attended in a Part 3.

From the wedding, April 2011:
Some time after 10:15 or 10:30pm, the bride made her first grand entrance, starting at the end of the ballroom behind a curtain with a spot light shining on it. She came out in a traditional green-colored Kuwaiti wedding dress, with a gold, crown-type covering on her head and walked slowly to the center of the dancing aisle to sit on a stool that was waiting for her. At this point, the dancing had temporarily ceased for the bride's entrance, so most people were sitting or standing to the side. Her walk to the center of the room took approximately 10 minutes- not that the room was that long, but it's a very drawn out, stately process.

Once the bride was sitting, her close family members all held the edge of an ornately decorated green scarf/blanket to wave it over her, in a modern version of the traditional Kuwaiti "jalwa" festivity. (The closest activity that I can compare this to is from elementary PE classes, when all of the students stand at the edge of  "parachute" and move it up and down, trying to bounce foam balls off of it.) After they recited some things and sang (all of this in Arabic), they gathered the blanket and the bride moved to a type of loveseat/divan on a stage at the front of the room, while her close family danced for her. After about 20 minutes, the bride left the room, and the general party and dancing resumed.

After another hour, say 12am, the bride came back to make another nearly royal entrance, this time in a white, western-style wedding gown. Again, her walk to the front was long and stately, pausing for a thousand pictures by the professional photographers along the way (no exaggeration). After the bride was seated on the stage again, her close family and friends danced for her, then the rest of the guests joined in, and people started going up to take pictures with her. Soon after, there was an announcement indicating that after the following song was played, the men would be entering the ballroom. In an instant, all of the women in the room who "cover" (wear the abaya and/or hijab) wrapped themselves in their covering garments. It was like a sea of black washed over the room, the bright colors and sequence of dresses no longer to be seen. Even the women who do not "cover" often put on some kind of jacket or shawl out of respect.

The photo on the left is of me before the first wedding, April 2011. The picture of a traditional  "bisht" was taken this spring at the Sadu House, Kuwait City.
 
At approx. 12:30am, the doors at the end of the room were again opened and the groom, bride's father, and groom's father entered in their best dishdashas and bishts. (The clothing made and worn for weddings is elaborate and expensive, and all of the men wear their best. The bisht robe can be variations of black or brown, depending on the quality and materials used to make them.) Following them was a small group of trusted friends of the groom, brothers (if any), and other close cousins they chose to include. Accompanying the men was a small group of singers and drummers from the live wedding band.

taken at the second wedding on Thursday night

The men did not take nearly as long as the bride to enter, walking straight up to the stage. As the three most important greeted the bride, they kissed her and each other on the forehead as a sign of respect, and then the bride was presented to the groom. (At this point, the bride and groom are already legally married via signing marriage documents, so this is permitted). In turn, the other men went up, shook the groom's hand and kissed him on the cheek as a sign of care and respect, and left the room. After all the men but the most important were gone, the musicians did an about-face, and left the room to re-join the rest of the band. Then, the mothers and other family members went up to be photographed with the couple.



*side note: The musicians at a wedding are stationed in an adjoining room throughout the whole evening and festivities, because they are traditionally all men. The musicians are mic-ed and play live for all of the dancing. A woman similar to a wedding coordinator communicates with another man coordinator in the room with the band via walkie-talkie, to tell him which songs the band should play, based on the time and stage of the evening and at the requests of the bride's mother.

After another 20 minutes, a gigantic cake was wheeled in for the bride and groom to ceremoniously cut. The groom escorted the bride to the back of the room, which was next to the dining room where the dinner buffet was to be held. The guests followed, and the couple cut the cake with a traditional saber, then left the room to spend time alone together. At this point, the guests were invited to eat or continue to dance as they liked, because no men were left in the ballroom. This might have carried on for another hour or so.

This is the kind of wedding cakes that you see in Kuwait, though this was not the actual cake.

photo borrowed from yaaluwa.com- Omar Addihaoui, pastry chef in Kuwait

There you have it. That's my best attempt at including the most important details of a more traditional Kuwaiti wedding. In Part 3, I'll give an extremely brief explanation of what the men do (because there really isn't much to tell) and write some tidbits about the most recent wedding I went to on Thursday night, as well as include some more pictures. I know I said cameras weren't allowed, but my friend took some photos while the men were there, since all of the women were modestly covered. This was the best we could do with an iPhone!